WARNING, WORST SITE EVER. OurTime's concept is "if the person has a pulse, they are a match!" Their "messages" are not actual messages, they are flirts and likes or System suggested comments. I signed up for the site only to find that 90% of my 189 "Messages" were flirts and likes and from people all over the country and only one or 2 matched my criteria. The matches they suggest are just as bad, they don't fit my criteria, Why on earth would they send me 100's of messages and matches? It is the biggest time waster EVER. Try Match.com, it is way better and much nicer customer service. Don't throw away your money away on this garbage.